Whisper a change and build it up to a roar
Next Step #06 - In my first letter for the year, I wrote about my self-reflection on being complacent and tips I learned to change my habit this year.
Happy New Year, everyone!
I have a confession to make. No matter whichever month of the year I always have fear of change. For someone who loves to speak about the potential in the next step, it took me years to be comfortable with the act of change.
Comfort zone; there’s a reason why we prefer (I prefer!) to be within the line.
It wasn’t like I am fully content being in the zone of comfort, the truth is being in there was only driving my curiosity and desire to change the condition even more.
The desire here is within the context of career and personal growth. 12 months ago, I was feeling like I am not living up to my potential and not using much of my strengths. But I also realize, whenever the opportunity arrives I felt like it’s a trap into something that is going to kill my joy of what I already have at that time.
I am not going to say a specific goal, but let’s start with something that I have always desired to achieve each year. In December ‘20 I sat down with myself and try to think of ways to set it up for success. I know I had all that courage in my mind, I showed all the effort to recognize the ways that will take me there. Fast forward to a few months later in ‘21 when big things (opportunities) knock on my front door, I was so ready to grab my bag and leave through the back door.
If my brain could talk, she would scream out to my soul, “Now lady, why the heck did you run away. What you ask for is here and you decided to grab your boobies and run away. Get your ass back here now”
Every atom of my body could not comprehend this cycle of thoughts each time this peculiar event that’s called ‘opportunity’ came. Why do I want to run away when I know in my knotted gut that this is exactly what I wanted?
Am I not up for it?
Am I dying?
All sorts of crappy thoughts playback in my head
Until this week I read books that seem to shed some light for me. A reminder once again.
The Atomic Habits book by James Clear. He quoted, “When habits are starting to feel automatic and you are becoming comfortable - you will fall into a trap of complacency” and “All big things come from small beginnings. The seed of every habit is a single, tiny decision. But as that decision is repeated, a habit sprouts and grows stronger.”
Complacency. One bad guy.
In the book it says, when your reach a certain number of repetitions that enable automaticity in your habit, your brain will start to feel complacent. When you are too complacent in your new normal, it will begin to feel hard to start the next new normal.
Big things. Another bad, very bad guy!
Each day we are bound with tons of decisive moments that can determine if we are going to have a good or bad day. The solution to this, make your new habit easy and stack up as you go.
The House In The Cerulean Sea by TJ Klune. He quoted, “Change often starts with the smallest of whispers. Like-minded people building it up to a roar”
Change can be scary and lonely most of the time, no doubt. That’s why it is important for us to be surrounded by like-minded people who can be there to catch us when our motivations fall. It is much easier to build the new identity into the new person you want to be when you are close to others who share the same interest as you. If you are like me and looking to find a supportive community in whatever that you want do this year, join the Meet Up
It’s all making sense now. I got my answer.
Well then friends, whisper a change and build it up to a roar.
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Well, thanks for reading my ramble. Remember that everything is workable. See you next week!