Choosing the right ring
Next Step #10 In this issue, I'd like to share an overview of how my week look like simultaneously making decision for multiple projects; yes including my wedding stuff!
Heya,
Forgive me for another yet mentioning about my wedding, but it is still a pretty big thing in my head these days and I am seeing the experience with wedding stuff is also a form of project management. Promise you, I am not sharing anything cheesy here!
Anyway, this week I had to make another big decision about my wedding.
Okay, here’s the thing.
Movies we watch always romanticize the decision of choosing the right ring. You sat there at the jewelry shop, they brought you just the one, you felt the butterflies in your belly, you felt glamorous like the lights from heaven are shining onto you just for you, you fell in love all over again and it’s done. You have found it!
Sorry to break the news to you (especially if you are my woman reader around here). It is not what you’ve seen on television!
Truth is … you’d tripped
You’d felt like everything stresses you out…and the world is against your will…
You’d felt like you won’t find the right one…EVER
So I brought myself to approach this ring decision like any other decision that matters to me. The ring is the goal here. The decision cycle isn’t any different than the others that I have made. *I knew it in my gut*
Here was my thought process that I think was similar to a project cycle (with a little twist, of course!) :
🧠 Initiation & Planning
Set the timeline to get this done. Otherwise, you will sit on this forever!
Research the type of ring that you want ie. I use Pinterest
Describe what “perfect ring” means to you and your future husband - I always believe the “perfect” things are the ones that align with your values
Don’t go for trend (“timeless and comfort over style” - for obvious reason and that’s just my personal preference)
Research the jewelry shop that you trust and not what others want you to go
Have a few options of idea on how you want the ring to look like on you - I created an idea board on Pinterest to help me with this, just in case my first choice isn’t available!
Consider the budget cos it’s not just about the price tag. Also, it is polite to respect your other half. I read somewhere that Amanda Seyfriend chose a simple plain band!
Don’t commit first and schedule a time to survey at a few places and another time just to buy
🛠 Execution
When you are at the jewelry shop, stick and only stick to your requirements
Don’t go alone and learn to make decisions together with your partner - Hence, bring your partner along with you please!
Tell your future husband to give you some space when you are thinking and pausing to think (communication is key, you don’t want to get into an unnecessary fight when you are stressing out and overwhelmed)
Try the ring on with different sizes to confirm your right size. Not too tight, not too loose, just nice.
Don’t be afraid to think outside of the box and choose entirely unique ring
Sleep on the choices before finalizing
✅ Closing
The right one will make you feel at ease and nothing troubles your mind when you’ve felt it on your finger.
Trust your decision to avoid “what if” thoughts out of your mind. Not worth it, really!
🧐 Reflections this week
We always let emotions control our judgment and do not realize we are making decisions just because the world tells us “yolo” and “it’s an experience of a lifetime”. There’s always an upside and downside to that - it’s your own choice to make. I have made mine. If sustainability is your value, you’d find my thoughts on “choosing the ring right” relatable.
😍 My favorite things this week
📚 I started to read “Think Again” by Adam Grant this week. I am only at 25% through the book but already learned so much about what stops us from changing our habits, thought processes, and perception that’s influenced by our biases. Interesting stuff.
🎧 Creative Focus playlist on Spotify is what is always in my background while I am doing research for wedding stuff this week! It kept me calm and relax for reading, thinking, and deciding.
📱 After 4.5 years of thinking if I should change to an iPhone, I finally pay a silly amount of money earlier this week to own an iPhone 13 replacing my 5 years of One Plus phone. I love the fact that I could have all things and notes in a single place and iPhone 13 Pro isn’t what I need. If you need to make a decision, re-read this post and R.Y.T.E decision to know which one suits you! 😏
🧑🏽🎨 What I made this week
🎬 I escaped the stress with the wedding plans to set up my Youtube corner that was long overdue. Put up some fake vines and fairy lights to brighten the corner of my study. It’s a work in progress.
📝 Created my portfolio page on my website to show the work that I have learned all over the years. The intent is to serve as extended description of what I do focusing mainly on projects. Work in progress, this one!
📝 Had a reflective moment with the quote from Daily Stoic on how much of us letting ourselves be a society pleaser instead of prioritizing our own needs. It’s a short 10 mins write up
✏️Quote of the week
‘the truth.’ Dumbledore sighed. ‘it is beautiful and terrible thing, and should therefore be treated with great caution’
From Harry Potter & The Philosopher’s Stone by JK Rowling resurfaced using Readwise
🐾 What will be the next step after this week
Making decisions that are aligned to your value, will keep you at peace for a long time ❤️
If you are buying something with a silly amount of cash and you know you don’t print money for a living, decide it based on what you actually need and not on the trend.
Have a great week!
Wawa xx